Now, you’ve read it before probably or at least you just know this intuitively but people that have large family networks close to them tend to recover from illness and injury much faster than those of us who have families spread out all over or just one or two people around.
The reason being is because when those people actually get sick or injured their family rushes in to support them and they recover so much faster. Now, it’s not just the fact their family’s doing things for them, although that is a key component. It’s actually having that emotional support as well as the physical support that allows them to rebound so much quicker. Now, how often do many of us actually need that support, especially for those of us that are business owners?
We need support in our business yet we’re taught by society that we should be doing this all on ourselves. I used to, at least for me, I used to love and cherish the fact that I could pull myself up by my own bootstraps and do it myself and I will out grind anybody. At the same time, I would always complain that I was doing it alone. I had this revolving story going around in my life where I was talking as a business owner. I was running multiple businesses and my story went something like this.
It went, when something bad would happen I would get mad because there was no one there to help me. I didn’t have an assistant, I didn’t have a partner, I didn’t have all these other things that other people had. My employees should be doing this, that, and the other and helping me out and I was doing everything. I also had the story that I could do everything and I was a bigger man because I could pull myself up by my own bootstraps.
I taught myself how to program websites, I taught myself how to do finance, I taught myself marketing, I taught myself construction so I could belt out my gym when I had a gym. I taught myself all of these skills by myself rather than just asking for support. Now, early on in my career I eventually found mentors and I talk about this and you should invest in mentors, for a business owner I think that is number one.
I found mentors and coaches and once I got that support from those mentors and coaches that’s when both my business and my personal life exploded like a rocket ship. I had the support, I had people that had been there and done that and I had the support. I had people showing me different ways of being, showing me different ways to think about things. In fact, my first business coach focused mostly on about four inches of space, the space between my ears.
I hired this business coach because I thought, “I need support, I need tactics. I need strategies, I need to grow my business and beat the competition and really get more leads coming in. What my business coach did, and he was one of the most successful business people I’ve ever known. What he did is he sat me down and we talked, and what we talked about was my philosophy, my ways of being in life, how was I supporting myself?
What he told me was, if I wasn’t supporting myself and getting support from other people the tactics, tricks, they couldn’t do anything. Now, I was young, I was in my early twenties and I partly didn’t want to hear that but I also knew he was right because I was stuck. I was stuck in a position and I knew, I felt like I was spinning my wheels and I knew if I didn’t get more support and if I didn’t do the changes he was suggesting the worst thing that could happen would be I’d be in the same position two, three, four, five years from now that I am in now, or at least back then that’s what I was thinking.
That scared me. I like to grow, I like to change and so I got that support. I hired more coaches and mentors and I worked on my mental game and that allowed me to catapult myself. Eventually, fast forward to where we are today more than 10 years later, I’ve developed the Five to Thrive System and I developed Author of Your Own Story so I could support you, I could support more people out there. That support really, there was nobody living this lifestyle, this business lifestyle thing that I was talking back at the time so I had to figure it out. I had to build the systems, I had to build the way out.
Since then, I’ve helped tons and tons of business owners get unstuck, get the support they need and really get clarity, and I want that for you. First, what I want you to do is grab your journal, write down your five to thrive; your mind, your body, your soul, your relationships, and your business. Look in there and look where you could use some support. In the area of your mind is there something that you want to learn and do you know somebody else that already knows the answers and knows the subject better than you do? Of course, you do.
Seek out that mentor, seek out that adviser. Usually, there’s a significant exchange of capital, resources, energy, time, but they’re going to shorten the gap for you and allow you to explode like my mentors did for me, in your body. Maybe you want to hire a coach, maybe you need support from friends. I know in the fitness industry which I’ve been in for over 20 years the number one thing I’ve seen is accountability. We all need accountability. Get that support from a friend, a loved one or hire a trainer. In the area of your soul where do you need support?
Where do you need to feel love? Is it someone to take you to church, mosque, temple or is it someone to sit down with you and just meditate with you and spend time and just be. Where is it actually in your relationships that you need support? Do you need support from a loved one, your family, your friends, your spouse? Where about your business do you need support? Do you need a mentor? Do you need a coach? Do you need support in the area of your finances? Hire a bookkeeper, an accountant or a financial adviser, where do you need your support so that when we have this conversation, a conversation about you two years from now the conversation’s totally different?
What I don’t want for you to be is in a situation that I thought I was going to be in my early twenties, a long time ago, almost 20 years ago. I don’t want you to be stuck, I don’t want you to have the same conversation, the same complaints that you’re having today two years from now. You deserve to move forward, you deserve to live a life with total fulfillment and freedom and I’d love to help you get there. Like I always tell you, if you’re looking for a coach or mentor reach out to me and I’m happy to refer you to somebody. I have a huge network of coaches and mentors that focus on different areas and if you’re looking for somebody I’d be happy to help you.
I want you to have guides and support along your journey, to be the author of your own story, not my story, your story. That’s the key to this whole path, the whole journey that we’re all on, it needs to be about you because this is your life and I want you to live it fully. Reach out to me, find me on social media, send me an email. Whatever’s easiest for you I’m happy to help you. See, I coach business owners and only business owners so you don’t happen to be a business owner, and I know many of you aren’t that listen to the Daily Growth Acts I’ll send you to somebody else or a course or give you a recommendation that you can do on your own. I’m happy to do that. I do that every day for people.
That’s it. I invite you to share this with three people so you can have the support, so you can build your tribe. I want people to be supporting you in your journey to be the author of your own story. That journey can be rocky and having that support is critical. It also opens up conversations that matter. Share this with three people right now and then as always go over to authorofyourownstory.com if you haven’t already and get on that email list so you can get the latest tips, tricks, and techniques delivered right to your inbox. That’s it for me today, I will see you tomorrow. Remember, go out and inspire someone simply by being the author of your own story.
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