It is my birthday, or a couple days ago was my birthday, but the weekend is upon us and my wife is surprising me with a lovely weekend away. Now, a couple years ago, probably even a year ago, but probably a couple years ago, I would have spent so much time and energy trying to figure out where we’re going, poking, prodding, asking certain questions of her to get an idea of the climate, the temperature, what kind of activities we would be doing, and I was really good at it. In fact, I could almost always pinpoint exactly where we were going each and every time without actually telling, but what happened was it really drained on her. I was ruining the surprise for her.
I love the idea of figuring something out, and being a sleuth, so to speak, and I thought I was so clever, but what I really didn’t realize was how much energy I spent doing this, and also how much it weighed my wife down. She was doing such lovely things for me and here I am poking and prodding, trying to ruin the surprise and trying to figure out what’s going on.
Well, this year, I just let go, and as I let go, I’ll tell you, I noticed there were control issues popping up in me left and right. I had to know and I wanted to ask questions and yeah, start to try and figure things out. I just kept letting go. I kept reminding myself each and every time that I attempted to learn what was going on, just let go and let it be, and I also laughed and journaled about my triggers on control and having control over what’s happening. I asked myself questions: if I don’t know where we’re going … are we going to be hiking? Do I need protection for my family, some knives, or do I need also, some survival gear, but also do I need binoculars in case there’s wildlife? Do I need my camera? Which camera?
I go through this whole slew of questions. Now, these questions are part of the reason I’ve been so successful many years of my life. They’re a protection mechanism that I’ve developed over the years and probably started off with having my family, my parents separated when I was four or five years old, and going from one house to the other, I wanted to make sure I had everything because gosh, if I was at my dad’s house and I left a toy or something at my mom’s, I couldn’t have it. That was it, so I’ve been like that pretty much my whole life, and I’m always trying to figure out what’s happening so I can prepare for it: really interesting to dig inside of that, myself, but when coming to this, what I found was: here we are. My birthday’s also the end of Q1.
If you’ve been listening to these daily growth acts for any time or you know my story or my journey, I’m the owner or part owner of six companies, so I really take a lot of time to do strategy at the end of the quarters. It’s the end of 90 days, plus I also set the 90-day game, which, if you haven’t done the 90-day game, reach out to me; I’ll make sure you get a copy of that course so you can go through that program, the introduction part of that program. I’m happy to do it for you.
So, at the end of the quarter, I’m just busy. Now I’ve got an infant and he’s not sleeping well, so I was up at 2:30, so my brain is maybe going at 20% capacity, but what I found was: Had I have spent more energy trying to control the situation, figure out what was going on. There was no way I could have had high-level executive meetings, bringing on new clients for one of my businesses while growing the other ones. I wouldn’t have had the capacity, and by letting go, it freed myself up.
Now, I don’t know about you, but what’s true for me is that when I let go of control, it actually frees my energy. The energy flow within me frees up to do more things, and nothing bad is going to happen. While you’re watching this, I’m probably actually on vacation right now. I’m filming this before so you have a daily growth act right in front of you, and just know that by letting go of that control, I’m able to do this. I’m able to provide a thought or insight that I hope gives somebody some value, and that’s what I’m here for. I really believe that I’m here to help people. My strength is education, learning and then teaching and helping people learn, helping people grow and push past their barriers, and had I not let go of this control issue that I have, and I’ll call it an issue, but I noticed that it was coming up in me, wanting to control the situation or at least wanting to know what was going on so I had some form of control.
You boil that down and it really is about control, if I’m being honest, and I always am, so with this, I really found that in my five to thrive, in my mind, I was really trying to control the situation, but I also realized I was trying to control it in my relationships, so two key categories of my five to thrive were coming in with this trip where I was trying to control the situation to make sure I was taking care of everything that I felt needed to be taken care of.
So, what I’m going to do, is I’m going to encourage you: grab your journal, and where are you finding control issues coming up? They’re not going to show up as control issues, right? It’s not going to show up as control, but if you boil that down, why do you want this? Why do you want to know what’s going on? Why do you really have a diet program, maybe? Maybe you’re on a ketogenic diet, or maybe you’re doing intermittent fasting. Is it so you can control something? And that’s okay at times. There’s nothing wrong with control, but there is something wrong with control if it’s sapping your energy like it potentially could be sapping mine, and I’ll tell you what: running on fumes and I’m probably at 15% now while I’m filming this and it’s probably coming through, especially if you’re watching this on video, but I wouldn’t be able to do this had I not let go of control, and so by letting go of control, it filled me up. It allowed me to have great meetings today, and I want that for you. I want that extra space with inside of you, that energetic space, to allow greatness to unfold even more than it probably already has.
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