What is the match game? I’m not talking about a dating game. I’m talking about a trick or a game that you should be playing on a daily basis, moment by moment to make sure that your words, actions, and energies match up to what you want to create as your own story. What do I mean? Are you walking around talking about being broke? Man, I wish I just had a little bit more money, so I could get out in nature and have a boat to be on the water, things like that.
Instead, what does that match? Does that match up to who you want to be? No. That’s a negative talk. That’s negative self-talk. Things you could talk about are I’m constantly growing my wealth to support the lifestyle that I want. These are the types of thoughts and things that you need to catch with yourself and saying on a day to day basis. Now, this could also be at work. If you’re at work sitting down there and go “Gees, I can’t wait to get out of here.” These are negative thoughts that are actually going to hold you back and hold you down from becoming the author of your own story. This can also be in relationships. This can be in all areas of your 5 to Thrive, also with energy. Oftentimes, I am somebody that talks about being tired.
I have all these excuses, I work a lot, I play a ton, I have a newborn, all these things, but I’m always talking about being tired. I shouldn’t say always, but oftentimes I am and my wife is nice enough to point that out to me, to let me know that I’m being incongruent with my match game. That’s something I’m working on. I have a couple clients and even a couple friends that talk about their spouses, things that they don’t like. Doug, she’s just not exactly the way it turned out to be or our relationship isn’t the greatest, things like that. I have a great friend who’s talking about what’s going down, although he lives an epic life. See, they’re not paying the match game and by not playing the match game, really you’re just not happy.
It may put you in the state of mind of a deficit. It puts you in the state of mind of non-abundance, not having enough. By creating more abundance, and I use that term abundance loosely, it’s really about creating the life that you want. If thoughts are things, and we all know that they are, then what your thoughts matching with for you? Are they matching up with the person you want to be? Are they matching up with your destiny or the Author of Your Own Story lifestyle that you want to live? If not, make note of that and change it. You can change it in a minute. You can change it in an instant. You can change your energy. Perfect example that I use often for myself, but also often with a client is you say you’re tired, you’re exhausted, you’re down. If you found out you won the lottery, what would you do?
You would erupt, you would jump up and down, you would go crazy because you have that energy inside of you. You always do and it’s just tapping into that on a regular basis, that creates more muscle memory so when you’re walking around, you always have energy. That is your equilibrium. That is your natural state. You can do the same thing with positivity, with love, with your body, with your mind, with your soul, with your relationships, with your business. It helps you thrive. Don’t you believe me? People talk about hey Doug, this is great. It’s helped my relationship with my business, this mental stuff, give me some tactics, give me some tips. Well, this is one of the best tactics you can use to grow your business.
Why? You want to do business with people who are positive. You want to do business with people who have a lot of energy. That’s what makes salespeople great. The great salespeople are charismatic and the reason they’re charismatic is that they’re living epic lives, or at least it seems that way. This will help you grow your business. You’ll have more energy, more creativity to bring to the marketplace. Business is all about creating value. Whoever creates the most value wins. That’s what this is all about, matching that up, matching that up with your energy, matching that up with your life, what you want to do. How do you want to live an epic life? See, for me right now, I’ve been out for four days in the wilderness with my wife for her birthday.
This matches up with my Author of Your Own Story lifestyle. This matches up with our lifestyle for her. This is where you want to be. I’m sitting here talking to you right now in the middle of the wilderness. How epic is that? What I want you to do is pull out your journal, write down your 5 to Thrive, your mind, your body, your soul, your relationships, and your business, and where are you not matching up. Now, that’s fine. Write that down, but what I also want you to do is write down each area, two things, that match up with what you want. What are two things that you could say on a regular basis that matches up with the life that you want to create, the life that you’re living, but the life that you really want, Author of Your Own Story lifestyle?
Then, I want you to repeat those every day. Every morning when you wake up, repeat those two sentences in each of the five categories and also read those out loud, in front the mirror is the ideal situation, in the evening right before you go to bed. Give that a try. I guarantee it’ll uplevel your life. That’s it for me today. Remember to go out and be the author of your own story.
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