Just recently I was taking care of my sick wife and child. Now, this is to me it’s something I’m actually really enjoyed, I’m grateful that I have the ability to do that. I’ve created a lifestyle for myself and for my family where I don’t have to work if I don’t want to. It’s complete freedom, and part of that comes to a responsibility as a husband and as a parent. When those times come, when both my child and my wife are sick at the same time, for me to step up and step into that role. Well, of course, they got better, which I was so happy to see, but it was my turn. I fell down and I got sick.
Now, of course, they’re there to pick me up, but one of the things I noticed is I started to revert to certain habits or triggers, right? I had low energy, I was lethargic, so of course, what do you crave? Well, typically with most people, or I don’t know about you, but with me, I crave sugar and just fatty foods, right? So I was thinking, oh geez, I want cookies, and I want nachos, and pizza, easy, fast, tasty foods.
Well, this was contraindicated to my fitness and health goals that I have right now, and that I set for myself. Here we are as I’m filming this, going to the end of Q1, end of the first quarter, so, entering the end of March. I’ve almost hit my fitness goals, but not quite yet. Now I know that I’m sick, I wanted to go down to what my lowest set point was and then I was going back to comfort foods that I had been eating since a very early age.
I remember when my mom used to make nachos with the Velveeta cheese and putting them in the microwave, I’d eat those all the time as a kid, and I was a heavyset kid. Here I am in my 40’s with a diverse fitness background, so I started to notice that I was really going or wanting to gravitate towards those comfort foods that my mom had given me. When I was sick, what we got were Slurpee’s, 7-UP, and we got nachos, those were the foods you got when you were sick and homemade cookies. Often times I would just eat the cookie dough, I mean, let’s just be real.
What I started to notice, I started to go back to that set point, that low point, but this time was different. This time using that five to thrive technique that I often talked about, and just constantly journaling and looking where I was at, I started to recognize, “Hey, why am I doing this? Why am I gravitating towards this desire of this low set point? Does this go in alignment with my five to thrive?” So I print out my five to thrive and I put them on a board, in fact, it’s sitting right in front of me right now, with my goals for 90 days. If you haven’t had a chance to play the 90-day game, make sure you do that. If you have any questions, just go ahead and reach out to me, and I’ll make sure you get access to the 90-day game. It’s an amazing program, it’s a program that even I run my six-figure clients. I run them through the exact same program, so I’d be happy to give that you.
I look at my 90-day game, these things, these foods that I wanted to eat, I wanted to digest them, right? I was sick, I deserved it because I wasn’t feeling well. I don’t know about you, but what’s truth for me is I can justify just about everything, right? I want to go to this level, and then I notice that, and then I said, “Look, this isn’t in alignment with my goals, what I want to do,” so I chose differently. I chose a different path, a path of wellness, and a path of health, which helped me of course, recover quicker, I assume at least, and I definitely feel better about myself now that I feel better and I’m coming out of that being sick as we all can get, especially during this season, seems like everybody is.
When coming out of that, I started to wonder, what else in my five to thrive, when I’m down when I’m tired, I’m sick, I’m not feeling well, where else in my five to thrive am I going to a low set point? Where is another area? When I’m stressed in the area of business, or I’m stressed in a relationship. Where is my default low part, not my default setting, but my bottom, my bottom floor so to speak, like the basement area that we can sometimes get into. I wanted to identify where that was.
It was extremely eye opening for me and the reason it was is because when I looked at that basement, I didn’t want to be there. I don’t want to be there at any time in my life. I was very fortunately, because in a lot of those areas, I don’t go there, or if I do, that trigger happens and I get out of it very quickly. That was just through repetition of my five to thrive.
What I’m going to invite you to do today is grab your journal, write out your five to thrive, heal your mind, your body, your soul, your relationships, and yes your business, then what I want you to do is write out where your lowest set point is. Where’s that low basement for you? Where is it in your mind? Do you start thinking negative thoughts as I can often do? I can start thinking about people are out to get me, or screw me over, that was my old default, it took me a long time to really trust people. I’m over that now, so I make sure I don’t get that by identifying it was the first step.
My body, like I mentioned, it was nachos and pizza and sugary foods and lots of coffee to keep my energy up. Then, what else in relationships were being triggered? Again, that trust factor, right? I can always come up with that trust factor of being triggered and getting angry real quick, then by identifying that, when I get angry, I’m only angry for a few seconds, because I can identify that quickly and go to discovery mode and go, “Ah, isn’t that interesting,” and go out into curiosity, and it takes me out of anger instantly.
Also, my soul, right? Where am I in that with my lowest set point? I don’t want to meditate, I don’t want to read, I don’t want to be outside, I just want to be in a dark room with my lowest set point. Then, in also business, where am I in my lowest set point in business? So, when I’m writing these things out, it helps me identify those areas and I hope it helps you too.
Once you’ve identified, you could make a conscious decision as I do with, is this acceptable? If it’s not for you, then it’s time to move up and in getting moving up is surround yourself with like-minded people, getting coaches, mentors, reading books, things like that, that are going to uplift you. Constantly like a song that’s a catchy tune on the radio that you heard five years ago that just all of a sudden picks up in your head as you’re walking or cleaning or doing something else. We want the same thing to happen with your high point. We really always to be, this is your default, keeps rising up, and this is going to help you gain freedom, clarity, and allow you to continue on the path to become the author of your own story.
That’s it for me today, I’d love to hear from you. Of course, make sure you go out and just inspire someone simply by being the author of your own story. I will see you tomorrow. Take care.
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