The ever-changing you. This idea came up when I was having a conversation with a friend who was asking me, “Doug, why do you have a coach? You’ve been coaching people for years at a high level, you’ve been doing personal development since you were in high school, why are you still doing this?”
The reason is, I’m always changing, right? Every time I peel back a layer of my life, peel back the onion so to speak, it exposes something new. I’m changing my thoughts, my patterns, my beliefs.
Today I’m gonna tell you a little story about a client of mine. Now, this client is very successful again, and I say again because they were successful many years ago. But the reason I’m telling you this story is because his birthday is actually today. We were talking yesterday about his birthday and what it means to him. What he let me know is a year ago he was a full on drug addict….
The 5 To Thrive is something that I base all my coaching on. I’ve been coaching and doing personal business development for many years. I’ve been doing it since I was in high school and am in my 40s now, so you can do the math.
But, what I’ve learned is there are five key elements to a holistic and successful life.
It’s caused him to get into drug addiction, multiple relationships and pregnancies with women he doesn’t even care about. It’s caused him to destroy relationships. That he actually does care about people he loves. He’s burnt bridges. He’s gone bankrupt. He’s destroyed his business. He’s destroyed his health. He’s destroyed his soul. He’s actively seeking a way of doing this but it comes down to self-worth and when I told him was there’s no amount of tips or tactics or little secrets that I can give him just do this once a day that are going to help him.
Now, self-appreciation is also called self-love. This is often times when working with a client, something that I see missing. And we all think “I love myself, I like myself, that’s all good, Doug.” But I can tell you right now, I have a lot of clients that pay me a lot of money to help them break through barriers to up-level their lives. The reason this works is that I am able to look past them and see the love or missing elements within themselves. Often times, the first things I have them do, is really assess their level of self-appreciation.
