Words Cannot Be Unsaid
Remember, words cannot be unsaid. There’s a lot of things in life that you can undo, you can take back and no one will ever know. Words aren’t one of those things. Yes, if you say something, you can go back and correct the situation, apologize and take ownership, and you should each and every time. Right? Words themselves cannot be unsaid. If you say something mean, vulgar or hurtful to somebody, they can’t be taken back. The person may forgive you, but you can never take those words back.
To Laugh or To Cry?
Just a couple days ago I was doing a therapy session, and it was actually with a trainer. He said, “This is experimental, Doug. I’m just letting you know. We’re actually going to put a cement block” … almost like a foam roller if you can picture it. It was actually PVC piping. I think it was about eight inches in diameter filled with cement, so it was heavy. I think it was about 75 pounds. … “and I’m going to put it on your back and put pressure and roll it back and forth.”
Two Ways To Be Wealthy
Earlier today, I was working at a coffee shop, just journaling some ideas down, when a friend of mine sent me a text message. And it was a text message, he said, “This is where I see you.” As I looked down at my phone, I saw a link and a picture to a beautiful ranch, over 300 acres, on a private lake. And around the lake, there are guest cabins. This sat next to National Forest, with beautiful snow-topped tree mountains all around it, absolutely an amazing piece of property. And why he sent this to me is, my dream is to have this land, where I can bring my clients, they can stay in a guest house, and I can do intensive retreats on my own property. And other coaches and mentors from around the world can bring their clients, and do retreats.
When Is A Good Time To Go After Your Dreams?
Often times, at the end of these daily growth hacks, I ask you to do a couple of simple things, a couple of calls to action to help you grow. One of those is to sign up for our newsletter. Now, if you have signed up for our newsletter, you know you get a series of emails from me directly. One of the things I do is I ask you a couple of questions. When people respond, and they do often, I take a lot of time to read those, reflect on them, and respond back.
Revisit: How to Learn Fast?
So this is a tip I got from Jim Quick. Now, Jim Quick is thought of as the memory guy. So, you can find him over at his website, but he also has a fantastic podcast I recommend checking out. So Jim uses the acronym FAST, how to learn anything and how to learn it faster, right?
The Root And Power Of Scarcity
Now, where does scarcity come from, and is it always bad? Well, scarcity commonly comes from two angles, right? When we get into a scarcity mindset, we’re either angry, right? We’re angry at somebody, so, “This is mine, and I’m taking this,” because you’re mad. And you get into this scarcity mindset that things are going to go away.
The Outside World Can’t Control You
When I say the outside world can’t control you, what do I mean? Well, how often do you hear someone complaining about something outside? You know, “My work is stressful, it’s overwhelming me.” Or “My husband or my wife frustrates me.” Or “My business partner drives me nuts.” I hear this all the time as a coach, but also just as a friend of so many people who reach out to me.
What Are the Biggest Lessons You’ve Learned Over the Past Year?
We’re less than 10 days as I record this away from my birthday and during this time, it’s a great time for reflection, kind of like the beginning of the year even though I do this every quarter. My birthday just happens to fall on the end of Q1 for this year. One of the things that I like to do is look back and look at lessons that I’ve learned.
What’s Your Lowest Set Point?
Just recently I was taking care of my sick wife and child. Now, this is to me it’s something I’m actually really enjoyed, I’m grateful that I have the ability to do that. I’ve created a lifestyle for myself and for my family where I don’t have to work if I don’t want to. It’s complete freedom, and part of that comes to a responsibility as a husband and as a parent. When those times come, when both my child and my wife are sick at the same time, for me to step up and step into that role. Well, of course, they got better, which I was so happy to see, but it was my turn. I fell down and I got sick.
Do What You’re Born To Do
You know, when a dog trainer goes into a home to work with a disciplined dog or a dog with disciplinary problems. The first question they often ask the owner is, “Do you walk your dog?” Now the reason they ask this is because dogs are animals, animals that were born and bred to move. They were born to work, right. And so when dogs are limited in their mobility or taken away the actual ability to go roam and be active, one of the first things they do is act out. They tear up the furniture. They start eating chairs. They start barking a lot because they don’t know what to do. It’s their way of acting out, right, because they’re not doing what they were born to do.
Revisit: Can You Handle the Truth
Can you handle the truth? I mean are you actually telling yourself the truth in areas of your life that are important, in your five to thrive, or are you actually trying just to be positive and tell yourself everything’s OK, when really it’s not, really you’re not on the path to getting where you want to go? Now see, there’s a difference between positivity and lying to yourself or being deceitful to yourself to protect yourself.
Episode 300
What is a success without freedom? And the reason I ask this is oftentimes as business owners, we actually go after success so hard that we lose freedom. What happens all too often with business owners, especially solopreneurs or people who have less than 10 employees under one roof. What happens is, they define success by trying to build their business, and the amount of time they’re putting in. This is a time of natural reflection, a time where we can look back, go through our journals, look at old pictures, and see what we’ve accomplished.
Revisit: Imagine You Are The Idea
Recently, I had someone reach out to me, and they wanted help with a new product they were developing. What they wanted to do was hire me as a consultant, but truthfully, they just couldn’t afford our fees for our agency. So what I did, though, is I didn’t want to leave them empty-handed, so I provided them an idea.
Revisit: Just And Only
Now, I just got back from a run and I wanted to shoot this quick video because it’s a topic I had earlier with a client of mine I was working with. The two words that came up were just and only. In this conversation, he was telling me, “Doug, I’m just doing this,” or, “It’s only one time.” It’s only one time I’m doing it, or only one cookie or whatever it was. So in our conversation, it happened to be around the area of business. The words just and only kept coming up in this conversation. That’s when I stopped him. Let’s just say his name was Rick. I said, “Rick, it’s not just, and it’s not only. Take those words out of your vocabulary.” So what would you say if you took out the word ‘only’ in that sentence?
Revisit: The Skater, the Entrepreneur and The Author of Your Own Story
Last night someone asked me, they said, "Doug, how do I know when I see somebody that's actually living The Author of Your Own Story lifestyle? Give me two examples, just something that I can look at in other areas of life that I can really see." And I said, "Easy,...
Is It Working Or Not?
A snapshot in time, the present moment. Ask yourself, “Is it working or is it not?” Now, oftentimes we kind of fudge things around. You know, “Is your diet or exercise program working?” “Well, you know sometimes it is, sometimes it isn’t. You know, sometimes Doug I’m on it and sometimes I’m not.” Well, that’s BS, right? Either it is working, or it’s not working. And if it’s working sometimes that means it’s not working for you.
The Need For Growth
People often ask me, why do high-end successful business owners and coaches turn to me for coaching? Well, the idea is really simple. We need to always be growing. And so, the conversation revolves, and they say, well Doug, these people are already successful. I know some of your clients. They have a private plane. They have a successful business. Now, not everybody does, right? Some of my clients are actually entrepreneurs just starting out. They’re willing to take the deep dive, but all of them have the same need, the same desire, and that’s growth.
Focus On What Matters
Just yesterday I was sitting in my office and my office is at home, and I was working away on a big project. We’re launching a huge program that we think is a game changer here. And as I was working on it, I have glass windows, glass doors, on my office and I looked outside and I heard the words, “Da-Da.” Now, I looked to my right and there was my young son smiling, and he was just gleaming from ear to ear. Now, I was so focused on this project. I was working hard and I wanted to get it through. Now, I could have easily stayed and worked on my project, and that was the first reaction that I had. My first reaction was, ah, that’s cute, back to work. Let’s get some focus time, maybe I’ll even close the drapes so I can just focus on this project.
